A journey to Ireland becomes a discovery of self
ByÂ M. M. Adjarian
My mind was made up. I was going to Ireland for my junior year. Pauline, an Asian girl I knew from French class, was going on the Berkeley Pau-Paris program. But my inner teenage know-it-all sniffed that France would be a waste of time. After all, my father had been born in Paris â€” what did it matter that I had never seen it for myself?
Pauline told me she couldnâ€™t wait to spend time in the sun-splashed outdoor cafÃ©s watching stylish people stroll by. I thought she had fallen for the ultimate American college clichÃ©. A small, rainy island in the North Atlantic seemed exactly the right fit for my contrarian spirit.Â It didnâ€™t hurt that my destination, Trinity College, reminded me of Oxford, which Iâ€™d first seen on the Masterpiece Theater series, Brideshead Revisited.
The truth was that my choice was only partially dictated by rebellious impulses. What I really wanted was to keep my past â€” especially if it had anything to do with my European immigrant parents â€” at armâ€™s length. Of course, the more I tried to get away from that past, the more I ran right into it.
Berkeleyâ€™s junior year abroad program to Britain included universities like Leeds, Hull and Edinburgh â€” places I had never heard of. Trinity College was the one name I recognized. An English professor had mentioned that the Church had banned faithful Catholics including James Joyce, a writer he had included on the class reading list, from attending the university. Like many of my classmates, I struggled with ‘Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man’; the stream-of-consciousness interiority sometimes made the novel seem more like a secret to be uncovered rather than a story to be understood.
One afternoon, my roommate and I were studying together in our dorm room. Lisa was in the same English class but rarely took any of the assignments seriously. As if to tease me for my studiousness, she began reading from Joyceâ€™s novel in a melodramatic voice.
â€œâ€˜Her long slender bare legs were delicate as a craneâ€™s . . . her thighs fuller and soft-hued as ivory were bared almost to the hips . . .â€™ And Professor Knapp says thatâ€™s supposed to be sexual? Give me a break.â€
â€œAnything can be sexual when youâ€™re that repressed.â€
â€œTakes one to know one.â€
I made a face and grumbled; Lisa just laughed.
In the end, what captivated me most wasnâ€™t the erotic undertow that amused Lisa. Rather it was the narratorâ€™s refusal to be smothered by his strict provincial upbringing: “I will try to express myselfâ€¦as freely and as wholly as I can, using for my defense, the only arms I allow myself to use: silence, exile and cunning.” (pp. 268-69)
All I could think about as I read and re-read that sentence were the difficult relationships I had with both my mother and father. I had learned to withhold words like â€œI love youâ€ from mother; I could not love her strange fits of violence â€” the hitting, the kicking, the endless screaming accusations of disloyalty â€” anymore than I could love the self-imposed social exile that had transformed her into a recluse.
Silence had also become the way I punished my father who, until college, had been an absentee father. Now that he wanted me back in his life, I silently dictated what he could and couldnâ€™t know. And while the move north to Berkeley from my home in southern California didnâ€™t exactly count as exile since it put me geographically closer to my father, it had allowed me to distance myself from impossible maternal demands that I continue to live with her even as an adult.
In Joyce, I sensed a kindred spirit; and his work was a beautiful, angry mirror from which I could not turn away. So when I applied for junior year abroad the following fall, rather than go with a school in France or Great Britain, I marked Joyceâ€™s forbidden collegiate destination as my first choice.
My year abroad began with a flight to a London orientation meeting in early September 1985. I and a group University of California-system students left Los Angeles International Airport in the afternoon and arrived at Gatwick early the next day. Tired and disoriented, I picked up my suitcases and went with the other students to meet the bus that would take us to temporary digs at the University of London. The driver, a cheerful man with a booming voice, gave us a mini-tour of London, taking us past Big Ben and the Houses of Parliament. Pointing to the spiky-haired, leather-clad youths we saw along the way he said, â€œGive them a quid and maybe theyâ€™ll pose for you.â€ I was too exhausted to care.
By dinnertime, I gave in to sleep and went to bed. It was just after midnight when I awoke, shivering from the unaccustomed chill of a foggy London night. I stumbled out of my room and down a half-lit corridor toward a large window. There, I saw my own uncertain-looking face reflected back at me. To hell with punk rockers and James Joyce, I thought. This is crazy. I want to go home.
At an orientation meeting the next day, I was informed that our program would only be looking after us for a week. Michaelmas, the first trimester, didnâ€™t start for me until late September; I would be on my own for almost ten days. Seeing my panic, a slim girl sitting near me asked me where I was going.
â€œTrinity,â€ I said.
â€œIâ€™m going there, too. If you donâ€™t have a place to stay, you can come with me to my friend Andyâ€™s house in Belfast. Then we can take the train south to Dublin together. Oh, and by the way, my nameâ€™s Valerie.â€
Belfast worried me because of what Iâ€™d heard about the conflict between Catholics and Protestants. But at that moment, living in good company with the threat of IRA bombings seemed far more preferable than being alone and more than 5,000 miles from everything I knew.
A thirty-something man with dark, thinning hair met us at Belfast airport a week later. â€œWelcome to Ireland,â€ Andy said. On the way back to his house, he drove by the triple-tiered barrier that divided sections of the city.
â€œWhatâ€™s that?â€ I asked.
â€œItâ€™s the Peace Wall,â€ Andy said. â€œCatholics are on one side, Protestants on the other.â€
The Catholic side looked dirtier and more run-down than the Protestant side where Andy lived. Suddenly I became aware of just how many military guards were patrolling the streets. The idea of religious wars seemed medieval. Iâ€™d never seen anything like this in California or on Masterpiece Theater. But I reminded myself that I was in fractious Ireland, not the well-mannered England of Evelyn Waughâ€™s imagination.
When we arrived, he took Valerieâ€™s suitcase to his room then led us up to a cozy-looking but damp attic that smelled of lanolin. I sneezed almost immediately.
â€œThe roomâ€™s cold, but the showers are hot,â€ Andy said, grinning.
That night, he took us to a local pub and invited a partially disabled friend named Brendan to join us. Crowded and poorly ventilated, the inside of the pub was shrouded in stinking, white cigarette smoke.
â€œMaybe you have an allergy,â€ Valerie said as I sat hacking beside her.
Turning to me, Brendan said, â€œYouâ€™re the nicest girl Iâ€™ve ever met.â€
â€œIs it like this in all pubs?â€ I rasped, trying to ignore Brendan and thoughts of the leg he dragged behind him.
â€œUsually,â€ Andy said. â€œYouâ€™ll have to get used to it if you want to enjoy the nightlife in Dublin.â€
Looks like I wonâ€™t be doing much of that this year, I thought.
On the way home, the headlights of Andyâ€™s car briefly revealed someone dressed in what looked like a long brown robe and sandals.
â€œWas that a priest?â€ I asked.
Andy grinned at me from his rearview mirror. â€œNo. That was a monk. Thereâ€™s a monastery not far from here off Falls Road.â€
Save me, Father, I thought as Brendan continued to ply me with compliments. Perhaps the monk heard me. As soon as Andy dropped Brendan off, the man who had spent his evening trying to impress me walked away without a backward glance.
The following morning, Andy had already gone to work by the time I got up; Valerie and I were alone. It was gray and raining outside and we had no plans for the day except to rest.
â€œWhere did you and Andy meet?â€ I asked.
â€œAustralia. We were there a few years ago traveling.â€ Valerieâ€™s face suddenly turned serious. â€œAndy says that he loves me.â€ She looked away. â€œThen I find out about the other women in his life.â€
Valerie took out her wallet showed me a photograph of blond man named John with even less hair than Andy. He was a San Diego boyfriend with whom she had â€œan arrangement.â€
â€œIsnâ€™t he sexy?â€
I smiled but didnâ€™t answer. Clearly, fidelity wasnâ€™t Valerieâ€™s strong suit either. Someone juggling lovers on different continents was as foreign as Ireland was turning out to be.
We arrived in Dublin a week later and immediately went to Trinity Hall, the dormitory that would be our home for the next year. Valerieâ€™s room was in the main dormitory, which housed only students from the United States. But somehow, I and three other Americans had been paired with Irish roommates in nearby Greenane, a big old Georgian with large windows that stood apart from the main hall and housed only females.
My roommate Kathy was a freckled, green-eyed Belfast girl who always took giant bags of laundry home every time she went back to visit, which was often. I knew she missed her family because she would always call me by her older sisterâ€™s name just before she went to sleep. But the rifts in my own family had hardened me to what I saw as her sheltered immaturity. The last time I had seen my brother was at my high school graduation in 1983. And if I had brought home laundry from school for my mother to wash, she would have snorted her disapproval and told me to go do it myself.
When my roommate saw how much my studies consumed me, she attached herself to two other UC students who had also been assigned to Greenane. One, Marci, was a vivacious English major who talked non-stop about her upcoming Christmas trip to Rome with a boyfriend from UCLA. The other, Tracy, was a shy wallflower of a girl who studied art history. After a brief escapade with an Irish boy looking for easy sex with a liberated foreigner, Tracy closed ranks with Marci and Kathy. Together, the three of them formed a tight-knit circle of girliness that made me uncomfortable.
Liz was the only other girl in Greenane who stood apart from the others like I did. Though born in England she had grown up in Donegal, the northernmost county of Ireland. Everything about her â€” except her hair, which grew out in a comb-defying curly blonde mass â€” was sensible including her major, dentistry. Better still, she wasnâ€™t hung up on boys and seemed genuinely interested that Iâ€™d come over because I loved literature and James Joyce.
â€œI wish I could have studied something similar,â€ she said, sighing.
â€œWhat stopped you?â€
â€œThings are too hard for us here not to specialize in a profession early on. And even when we do, we still have to go to the UK or Europe just to get a decent job.â€
Although she never said it, I wondered whether Liz saw me as some starry-eyed dreamer following a trail as insubstantial as air.
Trinity College turned out to be nothing like the Oxfordian wonderland I had imagined. The problems began when I tried to enroll for the Michaelmas term. To take the classes I needed for my comparative literature major, I had to cross disciplines. And according to the mustachioed head of the English department, that just wasnâ€™t done.
â€œTrinity students focus on only one academic specialty from the start. If you donâ€™t concentrate your efforts, you wonâ€™t have true sense of what itâ€™s like to be an undergraduate here.â€
â€œButâ€¦I have requirements I have to fulfill for my program!â€
The chair glowered at me in silence. I could see by the more than skeptical look in his eyes that he thought I, my department â€” or both â€” lacked the proper gravitas.
â€œAll right,â€ he said finally. â€œBut youâ€™ll be the first and last student from your program to do this.â€
His rigidity bothered me. But it was of a piece with what I was finding elsewhere at the university. Professorial reverence for tradition in the English and French literature and Latin grammar courses I took chafed against my spirit. And the granite campus buildings began to feel more like rooms in a 500-year-old prison. Now I understood why so many students spent their free time in the downtown Dublin pubs I couldnâ€™t enter without breaking out into a coughing fit.